I have been tuning in for the common traits of people who have had their diagnoses turn around or experienced spontaneous healing. The answer I got was their openness, not their demographics, physical conditions or even piety.
When we are open, the body is more receptive to healing. When a diagnosis has not been confirmed or we are waiting for test results, it is a golden period to shift the trajectory because the mind is not locked in any story or condition.
Our thoughts, including those we adopt from others, are powerful. Unless we are strong enough in our core, we can easily swayed by others’ opinions and concerns. Our ruminations reinforce what we dread.
Uncertainty can be a gift, if we know how to work with it. Although the unsettled feeling is uncomfortable, it can be redirected to open up our entire systems so that we become available to more favorable outcomes.
Most people seek healing after a condition has been determined. Since energy precedes matter, I advocate shifting the energy before having lab tests or procedures done to evaluate or confirm any health conditions.
I have seen this work in children when doctors were trying to make the correct diagnoses. I have also seen adults getting test results that confirmed benign conditions when earlier assessments pointed towards more serious conditions.
When we are open, we allow healing to be spontaneous instead of making it to be a long-drawn-out process. When the body is reminded of its innate healing ability, the path to restoration can seem like divine grace.
Seeing a woman hobbling with a cane, I was moved to offer her a short prayer. As an elder in a spiritual community, she believed in prayers. We also established an understanding that the prayer’s effects would continue to unfold.
When I saw her two weeks later, she smiled brightly saying she had a lot less pain. Before I could suggest ways for further improvement, she walked away. That was my cue to let it go. She reminded me of people who want to feel better, but are not ready to feel way better.
Many of us put a ceiling on our healing trajectories. Because we can’t bear further disappointments, we set up “realistic” goals to protect our hearts. These goals essentially are like walls, blocking us from turning our situations around.
It is even tricker if we have been suffering for a while. Conditions that have become chronic can be demoralizing, causing one to acquiesce or lower the bar. One can lose the spark and rely on pick-me-ups for short-term relief.
Even for people who say they want to be healed, some don’t know they pose subconscious limitations to their healing. As a result, they choose approaches that match their beliefs. Their healing journeys become self-fulfilling prophecies.
We get what we believe; we do not get what we want. The more we believe we can turn our situations around and that life is on our side, the easier it is for us to identify healing approaches that will be life-affirming for us.
If we do not believe complete healing or recovery is possible, how do we increase our chances to heal or recover?
The good news is: the belief in our wholeness can be the size of a mustard seed. That belief doesn’t come from the mind, it comes from the body. You might feel warmth, chills, or effervescence when you connect with it.
By contrast, you might feel contracted, tight, numb or prickly when a belief is not supportive to your body. Becoming aware of the subtle range of sensations in the body is invaluable to the healing process.
When we develop a habit to pay attention to these nuances, they can be guides for our decisions. When small wins turn into bigger wins, the belief in our restoration becomes stronger. The incessant mind chatter takes a back seat.
Because I was living in my head and disconnected from my body for decades, it has taken me a while to appreciate the healing power of embodiment. That is also the difference between being smart and being wise.
The healing process can bring great gifts, if we allow it to help us uncover greater love, truth, beauty and possibilities. While we focus on healing, it is also important to hold a vision that inspires us to get out of our own way.
A vision does not have to be visual; it can be an impression or a sense that there is something more to life than it seems. As I address clients’ primary concerns, I wake up the preciousness in them that they didn’t know they have.
The other important factor for altering healing trajectories is communities. Engaging in conscious communities is different than having friends to hang out with, or loved ones who care for us or encourage us when we feel defeated.
Intentional community members are committed to holding greater visions and possibilities for each other. The unconditional love and consistency of support are invaluable for transcending limitations.
We can’t fully soak in the loving support if we are used to bolstering ourselves or being the strong one. Being vulnerable is a necessary part of the process if we want to alter our healing trajectories.
We might not want others to see us in distress. We might judge ourselves for feeling down. Tears are signs of releasing neurotoxins; it’s like melting what has been frozen. Being vulnerable opens us to deeper connections.
So often we really want to believe it is possible for us to turn situations around, but we let doubts and fears get in the way or we push them aside. My experience is that the only way to truly heal is to walk through them.
Fortunately we don’t have to revisit all the stories and dramas from the past. Healing happens when we are held in a loving space. That allows us to be present with what needs to be healed. It is a gentle yet effective process.
If you want to develop your system so that you can alter your healing trajectory while feeling alive in your body, contact me and see how I can support you.
With Love,
I help clients regain vitality,
transcend limitations, and
rise to their magnificence.