I recently came across cases where people were forced to make a big change because of injuries or health emergencies. They were challenged in having the attitude or mindset that would support their healing.

The physical constraints pushed them to revisit their relationships with work, prioritize a healthier lifestyle over sensory stimulations, or ask for help when they are often the “go-to person” who likes to take charge. 

I noticed all of them had been dancing around the change they knew they had to make, but they had been putting it off until the crisis pushed them to make the very change they had been resisting. 

To prevent situations from becoming drastic, we have to realize that life is always giving us messages about whether we are on track or not. We need to train our eyes and ears to pick up the right messages and take timely actions.

When we first get off track, the warning signs may appear to be minor issues, such as allergies, weight gain, or occasional body aches. If we keep deflecting our attention from the cues, louder messages in form of breakdowns will occur.

If we limit our purview to the physical breakdown, we will overlook the underlying causes. When systemic causes are not addressed, challenges in different forms will arise even if the original breakdown has been resolved. 

Many people identify with physical ailments, but they don’t understand how their health conditions are connected with psychospiritual or psychoemotional causes. These causes are often present before they manifest as diseases. 

We think we are distressed because of the ailment. In reality, the emotional pain, depression or anxiety creates an internal environment for diseases to develop. Illnesses stir up emotions that we have been too distracted to notice.

Remember people stocking up toilet paper at the onset of COVID? It was an irrational behavior driven by fear. Others watched the news and followed suit because it triggered their scarcity mindset.

COVID stirred up lots of suppressed emotions that were already in people’s psyche.

Not everyone reacted to fear like the masses did. There were many who used that highly uncertain period to reassess their priorities and rebuild themselves. Others learned to be creative and pivot for greater success.

For us to heal, we need to acknowledge the parts of us that we love and the parts that we dislike or are ashamed of. If we ignore any aspect for a long time, disease becomes a pathway for us to heal our relationships with ourselves.

Aside from deflection, many of us are conditioned to push our way through resistance. The warrior in us thinks we become stronger. Some of us are drawn to challenges because we are addicted to the high from overcoming obstacles.  

Deflecting or pushing our way through resistance is reactive in nature. They might help us avoid discomfort or handle the present danger, but they do not fully address the fear or angst. 

When we are afraid or feel insecure, the body routes certain chemicals and resources to handle the perceived threats. Physical healing becomes a second priority.

Pushing ahead appeals to the warrior in us, but it doesn’t allow the sensitive aspect of us to contribute to the situation. If the sensitive aspect of us is afraid, she needs love and encouragement, not a warrior criticizing her weaknesses.

Love without conditions helps us feel safe, trusting that we are okay and things will work out. That orientation brings physical healing back to the first priority.

Being kind and gentle with our body is a great start, especially if we keep focusing on or criticizing the part of the body that is ailing. A consistent dose of compassion goes a long way.

When I recently helped a woman with a back injury, she mentioned how painful it was when her practitioner manipulated her body to expedite healing. I understood the reasoning, but didn’t care for how rough the practitioner was with her. 

Because she was strained on many levels, I suggested gentler practices that she could do to expedite the healing. As I guided her through a practice, she and her husband became more present. Their agitation softened.

When we reconnected later, she has developed greater acceptance and a more positive outlook of her situation. This change in attitude will serve her in many situations, long after her back is healed. 

On my own healing journey, the fibroids, which were as big as a pineapple and grapefruits, would shrink and enlarge. It wasn’t until I learned to appreciate the favorable and unfavorable parts of me that the fibroids started to shrink consistently.

Melding with resistance is also very helpful when we work towards a goal. Even if it is something we want, a part of us will resist change. Not knowing how to work with resistance, we will unconsciously sabotage our own efforts or we can’t sustain what we have achieved.

Regardless of how resistances shows up, it is not an obstacle to overcome or push aside. Resistance exists to help us transform the underdogs in us to heroes, shedding new light on our journeys for greater vitality, joy and freedom.

Changes are unavoidable. Positive thinking and pain avoidance can only take you so far. You can handle so much more if you develop new neural pathways and cultivate habits that bring forth the secret power unbeknownst to you.

If your journey to health and vitality feels like an uphill battle, chances are that you are missing a big piece of puzzle. I would love to show you groundbreaking techniques to expedite your healing. Contact me if I can be of service to you.